Making Sex Easier During Perimenopause
Sex during the perimenopausal years can feel like a struggle. Decreased desire may make getting in the mood for sex a problem to begin with. Then, when you finally do get in the mood, you may experienced decreased sensitivity or, worse, discomfort during penetration as vaginal dryness intrudes on your interlude. Luckily, there are ways to make sex easier and more enjoyable throughout perimenopause.
It’s not possible to overestimate the importance of lubrication for enhancing sexual desire and pleasure during perimenopause. There are plenty of lubricants to choose from, from water-based to silicone-based. Choosing the right lubricant depends on a variety of factors, including:
- Do you or your partner have any sensitivities or allergies? Some women, for example, find scented lubricants or those with added flavours to be an irritation.
- What type of experience are you looking for? While many lubricants offer only a standard experience, you can also try personal lubricants that offer a warming or tingling sensation.
- What kind of lubricant do you like best? Silicone-based lubricants tend to last longer than water-based ones, while water-based ones like Sylk won’t interact with sex toys and are often more practical for sensitive-skilled individuals.
Testing out a variety of lubricants is the best way to discover which one will work best for you. As an added bonus, you might find that you get excited about the chance to try out something new, which can also help ramp up your enjoyment in the bedroom.
Try a Hormonal Solution
Bioidentical hormones can help replace the hormones that aren’t produced as actively in your body during perimenopause. These bioidentical hormones, including oestrogen, testosterone, progesterone, and DHEA, can decrease a variety of common perimenopausal symptoms, including:
- Vaginal dryness
- Lack of sexual desire
- Hot flashes
- Decreased bone density and osteoporosis
Taking bioidentical hormones can also help balance your moods and help you feel more in control, which can, in turn, increase your sexual desire. This natural style of hormone regulation might be all it takes to help you enjoy sex again.
Have More Sex
When you’re struggling to increase your sexual desire, more sex might sound like the last thing you want. Having sex, however, is the best way to increase your sexual desire and give yourself that much-needed boost in the bedroom. If your partner isn’t on board, keep in mind that self-stimulation can have many of the same effects, allowing you to more fully enjoy your sexuality. The more often you reach orgasm, the more you’ll enjoy it as you learn exactly what your changing body wants, how to stimulate yourself, and how your partner can help. Regular sex may also help reduce some of the other symptoms of menopause and prevent your sexual desire from flying out the window altogether.
Spice It Up
During perimenopause, you may have more trouble reaching orgasm than before. Changing your sexual habits may help make it easier to both reach orgasm and continue enjoying sex. Try mixing it up with toys that you’ve been interested in trying, new positions, and other types of fun. Encourage your partner to add more foreplay, which may make it easier for you to relax and reach orgasm. Most of all, make sure that you enjoy what you’re doing: if you’re simply fighting to reach orgasm so you can roll over and go to sleep, you’ll have more trouble than if you’re enjoying yourself.
Enjoying sex during perimenopause doesn’t have to be a myth. In fact, during these years, your sex life can be better than ever. The trick is to balance your hormones, use lubricants as necessary, and keep experimenting until you find the combination that works for you. If you’re ready to start bioidentical hormone therapy or need more information about sex during perimenopause, contact us today to learn more about how we can help.