A person’s sex life does not have to go downhill when peri-menopause is reached. Sex is actually very beneficial, as well as fun. And if you are healthy enough to have sex, sex will only make you healthier.
Not only can safe, sane, and consensual sex bring you closer to your partner, but it also boosts your immunity, gives you a better night’s sleep, and will let you live longer. It will also make you happier because it releases oxytocin, the love drug.
It might even help you become more wealthy. A study published in 2013 by the Institute for the Study of Labor in Germany concluded that people who have sex four or more times a week make more money than their counterparts. This is probably because those who have sex are happier and less likely to suffer from depression and anxiety, problems that can affect all aspects of people’s lives, including their work life.
A common myth about menopause and peri-menopause is that the woman’s sex drive deteriorates. But this is not necessarily true, despite the drop in oestrogen levels. Instead of it being a case of “using it until you lose it”, the sex drive is a case of “use it or lose it”. Continuing to have sex while in menopause will prevent vaginal deterioration and will lead to bigger and better orgasms.
Here are ways to make your sex life as excellent as possible.
Do kegels or pelvic floor exercises. These are exercises for your vaginal muscles to keep them from deteriorating. It makes you tighter, which provides a better experience for both you and your partner during sex. A kegel is when you clench and unclench the muscles your use for urinating in short quick bursts before holding it for longer bursts. You can do them at any time, and because they are a subtle exercise, you can even do it during a very long meeting, or while you’re stuck in a traffic jam.
Use lubrication. There are many good forms available now, either water-based or oil-based, and coconut il can also be used, This makes sex easier and more pleasurable, and can be brought into foreplay.
Try new things. Even if you still feel happy with the missionary position, it doesn’t hurt to be adventurous. You can try new positions, or even consider BDSM (bondage, dominance, submission, sado-masochism), or role-playing to spice everything up. If you don’t know what to try first, or don’t have much of an idea of what you like, read some erotica stories to see what you might like the best.
Getting adventurous in sex will be fun and exciting for both you and your partner and it can help your love life. Just make sure to have excellent communication about what you like and don’t like. Communication is key for trying new things, especially for things like BDSM where one person has a significant amount of power over the other; explicit consent and safewords are essential.
Have more foreplay. Even though you might not lose your sex drive, it might be harder for you to orgasm during peri-menopause. So foreplay is more important than ever for you and your partner so you can reach an orgasm. It is very important to relax and take your time to enjoy the appetizers instead of rushing to the entree.
Use self-stimulation. There’s nothing wrong with masturbating. It keeps the blood flow to the vaginal circulating well which leads to a better sexual response. Masturbation is also a good way to keep you in touch with your fantasies.
Having sex during peri-menopause is important, fun and beneficial, and there are plenty of ways to make it more interesting and more likely for you to orgasm and enjoy it. So as long as you are healthy enough to have sex, follow the “use it or lose it” rule and enjoy.
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